We are a blended family of 6. Mr. Saitek and I met in 2007. We officially started dating in December 2010. In December of 2011 we were married, just a private ceremony right before our daughter, and fourth child [Cricket, Girl] of the family was born. I had 2 children and he had 1, and now we are one big united family. We are having our wedding in October 2012 and we've been busy trying to stay on top of the planning. We aren't doing anything fancy or even traditional, but it's a celebration of our union and that's all that matters to me at the moment.
We both believe in being the best parents possible. When we were single parents we gave our oldest 2 everything that we didn't have, because that's what parents do. Now that they are older and mostly ungrateful for the things that they are blessed with, we decided to take a different approach. We want to raise children with values, responsibility and honor. This is a bit tough in today's world, especially with 3 girls! But we are trying our best. We teach our children that actions have consequences, good and bad and that they need to be accountable for their decisions. We teach them that even though you don't have everything you want, you have everything you need.
The first year that we blended it was rough on everyone. The oldest of the children, Bee, had a rough time dealing with her dad's new relationship. I was the first woman she was ever introduced to, the only woman she's ever had to deal with besides her mother. She was also used to being an only child for 9 years, and now all of a sudden she was the oldest to 2 other siblings, Ladybug [Girl, Age 6] and Porkchop [Boy, Age 1]. On top of the sudden changes to her household she also had to deal with her mother's negativity and bitterness towards the situation. I believe that children should have the opportunities to come to their own decisions and opinions. She however didn't give Bee that chance and to this day I don't see us ever being on the same page or at least having some sort of understanding of each other. I will always support Bee and love her like she is one of my own and that's all that matters in the end.
Mr. Saitek has dealt with a lot of negativity, not only from his ex-wife but from friends and even strangers. We are constantly judged and stared at, and as annoying and frustrating as it is to not be able to go to the grocery store without stares and whispers, I wouldn't trade it for anything. I believe I have found my soulmate and as long as we're together, nothing else matters.
This blog will be an archival of all of our personal triumphs and tragedies. I plan on sharing tips and tricks for fitness, cooking, crafting and parenting. If I can help one person lose a pound or bake bread from scratch I will be happy. I'm also hoping to inspire parents of blended families and relationships as well. It's not always easy to be a new parent in a child's life, and there are times when I feel like a failure, but I'm positive I will find a path that works for everyone in my family.
Welcome to House Saitek.
